|Personal Connections to MS|
We are both in our early 40's and had both been married previously. We went out to dinner that Saturday night and have been together ever since. After our first date, I went to your web site and learned about MS. I really never thought the relationship would go anywhere because we were so different. Then I had the fear that if I broke up with him, he would think it was because of his MS. I was worried that I would end up taking care of everything and resenting it.
We've been through so much in the 21 months we been together that the MS issues are the least of it. He's lost a best friend, and uncle and his mother to cancer. Due to his demanding job, they encouraged him to go on permanent disability. He lost his roommate and had to deal with trying to afford his house all by himself with his income cut 40%. So when it comes to fatigue, physical frustration, multiple medications, bladder dysfunction, and intimacy issues, we find a way to deal with them together. We have found a way to laugh every single day.
He's shown me that love is so much more than a physical connection. I've taught him to deal with his disabilities without so much anger. We've shown all of the people in our families that life is worth taking chances even in the face of an uncertain future. We've taught each other that we can overcome just about anything if we do it together. I fell in love with a man who completes my life. He just happens to have MS.
In the 21 months we've been together he has only had two episodes and both were in the first 6 months of our relationship. I don't know if I can contribute his good health to my being with him, but I'd love to take some credit. I encourage him to learn more about his disease, its symptoms and how to adapt to his disabilities without it changing who he is.
Last weekend Larry asked me to marry him and I said yes.
Thanks for listening and thanks for a great web site.
|Last updated February 2, 2005|